Society Scoffs

I was talking with a coworker, who has a masters in Psychology, about addictions the other day . She said even if someone stays away from alcohol or drugs, they will always be an addict because they “do not have morals” and keep their addictive ways.

Then tonight, a coworker, said her uncle fell off the wagon. Another coworker said “well he is a lost cause.”

In two nights, two negative comments. Then I remember why I do not tell people that I am struggling with recovery. Amongst all their jokes about getting drunk and asking if my lemon water has vodka in it, I never say “I can’t drink alcohol.” I am not sure if I am embarrassed or just do not want to deal with their unfavorable attitudes. I would like to stand up for all alcoholics and addicts but then I worry how it would affect my work environment. A mistake is made and “oh must be her fault cause she is the alcoholic.” (Never mind all the mistakes I have been catching lately that coworkers have been making!)

Sometimes I think when I go back to school,  I might want to studying addiction. Maybe become a therapist or counselor.  Maybe try to help society overcome the stigma of addiction. Start finding real help and treatment rather than just punishment. I was informed that insurance through my job would cover rehab. For 72 hours. Who they hell can get cleaned in 72 hours?


Mistake 109- I met a friend at a festival in 2010. We met up again a few months later for a Halloween parade. He is very hot. Brazilian and young. When I first met him, I thought he was gorgeous. But I am 15 years older than him and I do not look like Demi Moore. I have no chance with him. Plus, he dates young, hot girls.

He joined me for this parade. I got drunk. Before he arrived, I was describing him to my friends as “the hot Brazilian.” He joined us for a bit. I kept drinking and think I remember still referring to him as “Hot” when he was there. I think I started to even hit on him. I do not remember but he left and has avoided meeting up with me ever since. We have been in the same city several times since 2010 and even same city on the other side of the globe. But he never replies to my requests to meet up.

I asked one of my other friends that was there at the parade what happened. She said “You were so funny. Yea you kept hitting on him but nothing out of the ordinary for you.” But I think it was enough to make him feel uncomfortable. He probably thinks of me as the old, drunk woman. Hopefully, I can make amend with him one day.

5 thoughts on “Society Scoffs

  1. I think you being a therapist would be so helpful. The one I was seeing last year had no clue how to deal with alcohol abuse. She kept wavering on whether she thought I had a problem. I suppose if she had been hard on me about it I wouldn’t have gone back. She was a bright eyed woman in her late 20’s and it appeared her worst problem was dealing with patients the county had sent her. I’m pretty sure I wasn’t her first rodeo when it came to counseling on addiction but she didn’t appear to have a clue.

    Just think of the first hand knowledge you could expound on the world!

    • Thanks. I had a therapist years ago who first questioned if I had a problem but I lied to deny it. But I liked her. She helped me try to figure out why I was depressed. Then I had to switch to someone else once I got insurance. The new lady answered a non-emergency call during our session from her daughter. I never went back due to her unprofessionalism. I want to go to therapy myself and find someone that specializes in alcoholism and maybe in another 5 years, I can become a counselor myself.

  2. It is actually frightening that someone could go all the way through an MA in psychology and wind up with such a lack of understand about addiction – not to mention a total lack of empathy. I think this is why a lot of people in recovery end up going into counseling therapy themselves and I think it’s a great idea. You’d already have 20x more understanding and compassion than that woman is probably ever going to have.

    When I was first confronting the fact I had a problem I was seeing a therapist and while she was very helpful with CBT stuff for anxiety/depression/general life coping she had not a clue about addiction. Despite the fact that I was quite honest about how much I was drinking (at that point around 4 to 6 bottles of wine a week) she was still encouraging me to moderate. I honestly think I just didn’t fit her image of someone with a “problem” if you know what I mean.

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