Long-term Recovery

Today I watched the film The Anonymous People on ManyFaces1Voice.org. I cried  some. It was moving and inspiring.

The thing I really liked was too use the term “long term recovery” instead of saying alcoholic. But how long do I have to be sober to consider it long term? It still feels sort of strange to think this is forever. I gave up on the idea of forever when I got divorced.

It is crazy to think of treating addicts as criminals.  I started reading Orange is the New Black. I love the show but reading the book makes me realize how it is a waste for our society to send someone to jail for a non -violent crime ten years after it happened due to our “zero tolerance” on drugs. I look forward to reading more. And I really look forward to the second season of the show.

I am going out for a friend’s birthday dinner tonight.  I am a little nervous about temptation but feel better after watching the movie.

“The easiest part was kicking it. The hardest part is living it.” – a man in the film

Mistake #32- I went out for drinks with friends.  I was separated from my husband for a few months. I started to date a guy that had a condo near the beach. I was getting upset that he didn’t call me or answer his phone that night. I was a little drunk and decided to drive by his place to see if his car was there. Was he out with another girl? I was jealous yet I was the one who still thought she was gonna fix her marriage eventually.

I got pulled over. I quickly took a sip of mouthwash I kept in my car door.  I read that they can not use results of a breathalyzer if you have mouthwash on your breath due to the alcohol in it. I told the officer I was just on my way to my boyfriend’s house. She asked if I was drinking and I admitted yes but diminished the amount. She asked why my breath smelled like mouthwash. I said I met a cute guy at the bar and I kept some in my bag to freshen up my breath. She had me step out of the car. Her partner said something about real alcoholics drinking mouthwash for the high. I stuck to my breath freshner story. When they asked me to walk on a straight line, I started to cry. I told them I have been having a really hard time being separated from my husband and I was in school and please please PLEASE I can not get a DUI! I walked the line while bawling my eyes out. I did other soriety tests while crying. I must have done okay because they did not arrest me. They gave me a ride home.

The whole ride home she lectured me. She talked about drinking and driving and all the deaths she has seen. I kept thanking her. I cried. I must have seemed such a mess especially with my stories of husband, boyfriend, and meeting a guy in the bar.

I walked into my roommate’s room when I got home and woke her up. I cried and told her I almost just got arrested for a DUI. She hugged me and told me stories about her “almost” DUIs too. I swore I would never drink and drive again. I finally went to my room and cried to sleep.

I got my first DUI a year and half later.

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2 thoughts on “Long-term Recovery

  1. As always, your stories amaze me. I am really glad that you are here, sober and blogging.
    The Anonymous People really resonated with me also. It was a great movie, I enjoyed every minute.
    So we aren’t alcoholics, we are in long term recovery. It sounds much nicer doesn’t it?
    I don’t think it will go over well at the AA meetings. Just saying.
    Happy Sunday, I hope you made it through your night sober 🙂

    • I thought about telling people in the meetings about the movie but I haven’t been to a meeting since hearing about the screening. But yes don’t think AA people would agree with some of it. The movie got me wondering if I could become a addict counselor one day. Get a job at a detox center. In Thailand. 🙂

      I tried to leave a comment here about my night but it didnt go through. It was ok but I am glad I left when I did. Dinner was good and I only stared at wine glasses a little. People started buying shots for the birthday girl and latecomers talked about “catching up” and pounded drinks. I had a good excuse that I had a long drive to do so I left early. Later I saw a video posted online of the party. Everyone drunk and dancing. I knew I would have felt uncomfortable if I stayed.

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